TEN COMMON MYTHS ABOUT IBS

By Gurdeep Hundal

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It’s a topic that is rarely talked about: bowel movements. But according to the NHS, 1 in 5 children, and adults alike – suffer from Irritable Bowel Syndrome and there’s no cure for it.

Many patients are told IBS is a psychological disorder, but we dismiss this – by revealing the ten common IBS myths – that are often told to bowel sufferers.

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Myth 1: Probiotic drinks are good for you.

Bad news for probiotic drink lovers: they’re not good for you. They’re not even gut friendly. Yes that’s right – it’s all nonsense!

Britain’s best-selling yogurt drinks, Actimel and Yakult do not keep your gut healthy or aid digestive health.

There’s no such thing as good bacteria or good fungi/yeast, says the European Food Safety Authority.

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Myth 2: It’s just stress.

The most common myth for IBS is stress. Since the gut is more sensitive in people with this syndrome. This itself, does not cause a person to develop IBS. 

IBS is caused by a change in the gut, called serotonin. It’s transported into the lining of the gut and removed out of the bowel – but this is not the same for IBS.

Abnormal levels of serotonin are found in the gut, causing patients with IBS to suffer – with diarrhea, constipation, and abdominal pain.

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Myth 3: Aloe Vera soothes IBS. 

Lovers of natural products, beware. Drinking aloe vera juice may reduce IBS symptoms – but it can also be dangerous.

Aloe vera juice has potent laxative properties, which is great for constipation. But it can cause violent abdominal cramps, painful spasms, and diarrhea to occur.  

Using aloe vera juice for more than seven days, can lead to black pigmentation of the colonic wall, and increases the risk of colonic cancer!

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Myth 4: It’s all about your diet.

Although certain foods can trigger IBS symptoms – changes to the diet is generally not enough.

Sometimes the act of eating can cause the symptoms of IBS to trigger. Keep a food journal to help you identify your specific triggers.

Rye bread and crackers, and cereals made from corn, rice, or oats are supposedly, great alternatives to standard wheat-based foods. But remember, everyone’s gut is different!

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Myth 5: Turmeric is the cure for IBS.

Turmeric is best known for spicing up eastern cuisines, but too much of it can be bad for you.

Many herbalists claim it lessons the symptoms of IBS – due to its powerful anti-inflammatory – but it can cause stomach upset, nausea, dizziness, and diarrhea.  

It can also trigger stomach ulcers – if taken in large doses – for long periods.

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Myth 6: IBS tablets work.

Doctors love to prescribe these – as a quick solution. Yet, many of these medicines don’t work – as they don’t heal abnormalities in the digestive system.

These medicines are used to treat stomach cramps and spasm, and not the pain. It relaxes the muscles in the stomach, intestines, urinary, and reproductive tract.

Side effects include, dry mouth, blurred vision, redness or pain in the eye, urine retention, and constipation.

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Myth 7: Symptoms are only in the intestines.

Do your intestines feel irritable? Have you been reading too much online? Well it’s false. Too often, IBS is confused with other intestinal diseases.

Pains in the large intestine, doesn’t relate to IBS. There’s no connection. However, IBS can cause fatigue, lose of appetite, and nausea and fibromyalgia.

These can all cause widespread pain and extreme tiredness in the body.  

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Myth 8: IBS is the same thing as colitis.  

Many people confuse IBS with ulcerative colitis, but they’re not even the same condition.

IBS is a syndrome, not a disease. It does not lead to colon cancer or cause bleeding. It does not even cause inflammation in the intestine.

Ulcerative colitis, on the other hand, is a disease. It does cause inflammation in the large intestine, and can lead to viral and bacterial infections – including colon cancer.

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Myth 9: Blood in the stool – a symptom of IBS.

IBS sufferers. You may want to read this. For every IBS article you read online, the characteristic of IBS, will send you into a tailspin of panic.

IBS will never cause the colon to bleed, as IBS doesn’t cause inflammation. If there’s blood in the stool, this means there’s bleeding somewhere in your digestive tract.

Any blood seen in the stool should be discussed with your doctor immediately.

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Myth 10: IBS sufferers are lactose intolerant.

Drinking some full fat milk right now? You might want to skip this. Well that’s what a dietician would say. Yet, they’re wrong!

Some IBS sufferers are indeed, lactose intolerant. For others, they’re not. While lactose intolerance plays a role in some patients, there’s no direct link with IBS.

Lactose intolerance is just incidental in some cases of IBS sufferers.

 

Do we create our own illnesses?

By Gurdeep Hundal

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We all experience anxiety and stress in our daily lives. But no matter who we blame, or how many excuses we make, we are all responsible for our own illnesses.

Here’s 5 little-known facts that will surprise and intrigue you. (Yet, they are so obvious.)

 

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1. Is Your Mind Making You Sick?

Bad news for stress heads: your mind is making you sick. If you’re clinging onto the past, then you’re making yourself miserable! Stop it.

We all suffer from stress and psychological factors, such as unhappiness and emotional despair. But if left untreated, it can lead to regular colds and flu’s and potentially cancer!

It can also lead to cardiovascular diseases, diabetes and dementia! Lovely!

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2. Popping Too Many Analgesics? 

Medicine addicts. You might want to read this. For every analgesic you take, you might be killing yourself, without knowing it. Yeah! You heard right!

Taking too much paracetamol in pills, or cold remedies, can lead to liver failure. But taking Ibuprofen and other nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs, can lead to heart attacks or strokes.

Other side affects include ulcers, bleeding or holes in the stomach and the intestine.

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3. Is Your Phone Making You Sick?

Love your Smartphone? Me too. Did you know that your mobile can make you depressed? Yes, that’s right. It can make you go cuckoo!

Tweets, texts, emails, apps, and the Internet are causing our brains to fry up. It’s making us dumber, lonelier and anxious. Moreover, it’s disturbing our sleeping patters – since our emails and apps, buzz through the night.

Cleary, we’re getting out of control: is self-regulation the way forward? I think so.

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4. iPod Alert.

Hate to ruin your date with your iPod, but you’re probably damaging your hearing. Yes, do you fancy that? I thought not.

Listening to your iPod too much, or too loud, can overwork your sensory cells, leaving behind scars in your ears. And ultimately leads to premature deafness!

You may be unaware of this, but an iPod can produce a max of 115 decibels – which is similar to a rock concert. Ouch! Your ears! Fancy a hearing aid? Hmm.

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5. Exercise-less? 

Lovers of the desk, beware. Nearly every second you sit on that chair, may lead to depression. Yes, that right.

Living a sedentary lifestyle is dangerous. It can leave you feeling anxious. But if you exercise regularly, you will produce more endorphins in the brain, making you feel damn sexy!

If you’re not active at all – shame on you! You’re more likely to suffer with a heart attack! Ready for a workout? Yes, please!

What’s inside your food?

By Gurdeep Hundal

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The recent horsemeat scandal confirms we don’t always know what’s in our food. But no matter how many labels we read, we could be consuming things we didn’t even know.

According to the Food Standards Agency, seahorse was found in Findus’s fish fingers, three months ago. Yuck! But for Gurdeep Hundal, the frightening exposure is what companies are intentionally putting into our diet.

Here’s 10 revolting things you didn’t even know, you were consuming.

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1. Hairs in your bread

Fancy a slice of toast? Well, you might want to check the label first. Chances are you might be eating hairy bread. Yuck!

Many commercial breads use L-Cysteine, an amino acid made from human hair to soften bread. It’s found in pizza dough, bread rolls and pastries. McDonalds and Burger King too, all use this as an additive.

Other sources of L-cysteine include chicken feathers, cow horns, and petroleum byproducts.

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2. Antibiotics in your Poultry

Bad news for chicken lovers: your bird may be sicker than you are. Chickens are stuffed with over-the-counter antibiotics, which is ka ka crazy!

Just like humans, chickens suffer with sneezing, coughing, running noses, and diarrhoea. Farmers use cheap medicines to control this.

If you’re looking for a healthier option, go organic.

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3. Ice-Cream: Anal Glands of Beaver 

The next time you put vanilla, strawberry or raspberry ice cream in your mouth, think of anal glands. Yes, anal glands of a beaver.

This delicious treat is enhanced by castoreum, which comes from the caster sacs of male and female beavers. Yum!

It’s been approved by The FDA and is categorized under ‘natural flavouring.’

It’s also found in perfume!

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4. Sugar: Bone Char

Lovers of refined sugar, beware. Nearly every grain of sugar you sip away – may be filtered through animal bone charcoal.

Most manufacturers in the UK are free of animal substances. But Silver Spoon can’t guarantee their brown sugars are – since their suppliers might be using some charcoal.

Other uses of bone char include removing fluoride from water and aquarium tanks.

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5. Sawdust in your Shredded Cheese 

Love your shredded cheese? Well, this might put you off. These pre-packaged clumps contain cellulose, another term for sawdust! Yuck!

Cellulose is listed as a fibrous plant material made from wood pulp. It’s cheap. It helps to stabilize food and lowers fat content. Feast your eyes on that.

Time to grate your own cheese? I agree.

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6. Fish bladders in your beer

Before you drink a pint of beer, you might want to learn what’s in your glass. Chances are you might be drinking fishy beer! Blergh!

Many beer companies use Isinglass, a form of collagen culled from a fish’s swim bladder. It’s used to remove unwanted leftovers from the brewing process. Poor Nemo!

All you vegetarians or vegans out there – you might want to skip Guinness or any type of beer, completely.

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7. Wood Pulp in your Cereal

Cereal addicts. You might want to skip this one. For every spoon of fibre you ate this morning, you were also eating wood pulp! Yummy!

Cellulose is fibrous and appears in many health snacks and cereal bars. Stay clear from cereals containing microcrystalline cellulose (MMC) and gum, and carboxymethyl cellulose.

It’s also found in salad dressings and ice cream – to thicken them up.  

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 8. Candy Bugs

Love your hard candy? Me too. Did you know that your favourite candy is made from bug secretions? Yes, that’s right. You’re licking beetle juice called Shellac. Yuck!

Shellac is a shiny coating used in sprinkles and candies. It’s found in jelly beans, skittles and starbursts, and it’s difficult to remove, so you’ll need to scrub it.

It can be found in pill coatings, coffee beans, and waxy sheens on fruits and vegetables. 

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9. Carton juice: it’s not fresh

Drinking some juice right now? Spit it out. It’s not fresh. It’s not 100% orange juice either. Baffled? I would be. Surely, making orange juice should be simple – wrong!

For manufacturers, once the oranges are squeezed – the juice is stored in gigantic tanks to remove the oxygen. This allows the liquid to be used up to a year – but then the juice is stripped off all its flavouring.

Fragrance companies are then engineered to bring the flavours back into the juice – making it taste fresh. Yuck!

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10. Sheep Oil in your Gum

Hate to burst your bubble, but you’re probably chewing sheep oil. Yes, sheep oil.

These packets contain lanolin, a softener for chewing gum. Bahaha!

Lanolin – is a goopy, oily secretion found in sheep’s wool. Manufacturers don’t have to expand on the ingredient list beyond that.

It’s also found in cosmetics, sunscreen, hair and baby products.

Youth Depression: Is it overrated?

By Gurdeep Hundal

Many people say they are depressed, but how many of them actually ARE depressed? I believe the term is over exaggerated – especially by the youth today.

ImageAccording to an exclusive survey, published by ITV Daybreak this week, a third of teenagers said their depression was rooted by problems at home.

Yet, the article failed to discuss, what exactly ARE these problems? Could it be those long hours playing on the Xbox, starring at a TV screen, or browsing the Web? Not sure. Me neither.

The truth is, depression is overrated.

Many young people will experience ups and downs during their teenage years, and occasionally feel upset. For some, it might be personal reasons such as abuse, family breakdown, or bullying. However, for others, there is no excuse.

Let me take you back to my childhood. The term ‘depression’ never existed. Both my parents endured a lot of hardships in their lives, having both lost their fathers at a young age. Thus, I was unaware of the term depression.

As a teenager, I would listen to my next-door neighbour talk about the war. How she battled for food, heating, and not knowing when the war was going to end. Again, I was unaware of the term depression.

Most of my teenage life, I participated in activities – from cycling, gymnastics, singing and playing the harmonium. Television was limited and healthy food intake was essential. However, during my time at university, things changed.

In my final year, I encountered a car accident, where I suffered from short-term memory loss. This resulted in me losing sleep, not eating properly, and not interacting with others. My parents were worried and like any other person, I visited my local GP.

Here, I was asked to answer a series of questions with ‘yes’ and ‘no’ – only to hear, you’re ‘depressed.’ My reaction: ‘me depressed. No way.’ The GP offered me anti-depressant tablets on prescription and suggested I needed counseling.

As I walked home, I thought it was joke – so I ripped up the prescription and leaflet. The next day, I booked an appointment to see another GP for a second opinion. This time, I explained my car accident and within seconds, the GP advised me to take time off university, in order to recuperate.

After two months of mediation, relaxation and self-healing, I was ready to take on the world. In addition, I managed to finish my university degree and graduated with a 2.1. Clearly, the first GP would of potentially jeopardized my life and career.

This is why I believe the term ‘depression’ is overrated – in particular for young people.

Currently, GPs are prescribing an increasing number of antidepressants to young people – when really most of them just need counseling.

In 2005, The NHS drug watchdog said, young people should first be offered a course of psychological therapy, for the first three months. However, this is not the case, as therapists are in short supply.

As I stated, the effect of antidepressants in young people in the UK has caused concerns of a heightened risk of suicide. Just the other day, a friend of mine told me her best friend was depressed and sadly, he killed himself.

Surely as a nation, we are responsible for creating this manufacturing process of depression, within children.

If it’s not doctors prescribing young people with antidepressants, it’s society creating more wants and desires – causing young people to stare at computer screens, while texting away on their phones, and not taking a breather from their manufacturing products.

The problem today, is young people desire many materialism things, without working hard for it. Take for example the London riots. Why were there so many teenagers stealing from shops? Clearly, they wanted freebies without working for it.

It’s human nature to want everything – but there is no reason for these kids to be depressed. We live in a world of luxury, where we have everything at hand. While young people in third world countries are working each day, JUST to survive. Surely, youth depression is overrated here.

Of course, there are some young people dealing with depression in relation to abuse, family breakdowns or bullying – but I’m talking about those who mope around all day – when they have an opportunity to fix their lives, daily.

Just like my childhood, they need to take up more exercise, replace fast foods with healthier alternatives and most importantly, they need to love themselves – accept themselves and forgive themselves – before they can truly be content with life.

Many young people say they are depressed – but really, all they need to do is turn their mind away from miracle cures, body insecurities, materialism objects and quick fixes (i.e. antidepressants) and adopt a long-term strategy.

A strategy that leads to happiness through the appreciation of family, friends and their general surroundings. Otherwise youth depression will continue to spiral out of control.

 

If you are truly depressed then please do not suffer in silence.

Symptoms

  • Not wanting to do things they previously enjoyed
  • Sleeping more or less than usual
  • Eating more or less than normal
  • Feeling upset, miserable or lonely
  • Feeling hopeless
  • May be wanting to self-harm
  • Feeling tired and having no energy

Indian rapists should not be killed…

By Gurdeep Hundal 

When I heard that a 23-year-old was brutally gang raped in India with her intestines and genitalia severely damaged, I was beyond belief – how can somebody be so inhumane?

But how could I forget, India like the rest of Eastern society, never takes rape claims seriously. Just like in Bollywood movies, a young lady reports the crime, but the police will say, you must have insinuated the whole thing!

They will say her clothes were ‘too tight’ or ‘too revealing’ or she was ‘asking for it.’ No offence, but clothing and appearance has nothing to do with it. A rapist will always be a rapist.

Let me take you back to Tharir Square in Cairo, days before the Muslim Brotherhood’s victory of Egypt’s presidential election. Hundreds of innocent women, some wearing burqa’s, were attacked by sexual piranhas, as part of the regime.

Since then, Tharir Square has become a hotbed for organised sexual assaults on Egyptian women. If a lady in a burqa or hijab can be attacked, anyone can – clearly clothing and appearance has nothing to do with it.

Back in India, some parents are too sacred to let their daughters roam the streets alone, day or night. Will this solve anything? No, it will further increase the problem, making sexual assaults on women acceptable.

Parents should teach their sons how to respect women more. But with the rise of porn and sexual activity and the backing of Hindi films, women are displayed as sexual objects – it’s no wonder there’s a surge of sex pests.

Even the music industry has degraded women over the years. Calling them ‘bitches’ and ‘hoes,’ while referring to men as ‘pimps.’ Bhangra also disrespects women with songs like ‘Main Hun Balatkari’ – can you see a pattern? Yep.

Currently, a debate rages across India on whether capital punishment should be awarded to the rapists – but the death penalty will not resolve the problem.

Around one-third of women in the world have been subjected to rape. So how many fathers and sons will we kill across the nation? It’s pointless.

We should make them suffer, and castrate the rapists. Torture them in jail, so India can benchmark these punishments on male rapists, to help end violence against women. What do you think?

Racism will never die, no matter how hard we try

By Gurdeep Hundal 

London may be the most diverse city in the UK, but racism will never die. I was minding my own business at the tube station when an old man on purpose targeted me, and sat near me and began to whale “England, oh England, where have you gone…we have been taken over by Blacks, Asians and Pakistani people…oh England.”

I was minding my own business until he started chanting in front of my face. Then I flipped. Me: “that’s rude Mr, I would be careful what you say,” and then he snapped: “do you have a British passport…I’m entitled to my own opinion, blah blah.” Me: “I don’t need to explain myself to ignorant people like you…just open your eyes…if you don’t like diversity, then go outside of London.” He then began to whale again: “Oh England, I was born outside of London and in my time Black people would clean our shoes and now they’re at the same level of us” Me: “I’m not from London, but open your eyes” Him: “Oh you think your better than me…go back to your own country, blah blah…” Me: “My next door neighbour was British and she treated me like her own blood…she would be turning in her grave after hearing your ridiculousness.”

The guy stands in front of my face (at this point I’m thinking s**t he’s going to punch me) and I put my hand in front. Me: “I’m going.” Him: “go on” and then, me: “actually you go, (stumped my bags on the floor), there’s no place for racism here.” Then he attacks the Asian guy next me: “do you have a British passport” and the security guy comes over (who is Chinese) and he starts on him. Me: “jog on you narrow minded p***k.” Suddenly he gets offended, him: “how dare you, call me that.” Me: “you asked for that…being racist doesn’t make you better than anyone” Security guard takes him away.

Later, I posted my anger on Facebook, and to my surprise, many people were disgusted by his behaviour, but others said I should have ignored him, which is absolutely absurd. I have spent my entire life listening to ignorant people, chanting on how I should go back to my home country. Why should I sit there and listen to this? It’s not my fault his mind isn’t open-minded.

I could have ranted imperialism and how the Kohinoor was stolen from India, but what’s the point? The past is there for a reason. Let’s move on. Instead of ignoring racism, we should be educating these fools. Why else do we still have racism in the media, football and society? Simple, we are afraid to stand up and talk about it.

Another common factor is, some people think it’s easy to relate racism to accentism. When it cannot be compared. I’m British and Indian and I grew up in Yorkshire, but comparing these would be a foolish thing to do. I have spent many years, being judged on my skin complexion, the way I live, the food, and the values my ancestors adopted. But my northern accent hasn’t once caused anyone to say, “Go back to Yorkshire” or “what are you wearing” – instead it has created friendly banter.

Generally speaking, it doesn’t matter where you go in the world, racism will never die. Even within religions there are caste issues, catholic and protagonist differences, and Sunni and Shi’a hatred. So how will racism disappear? I’ll let you figure this out!

BRITAIN: DO WE HAVE A CULTURAL CRISIS?

June 6, 2013

By Gurdeep Hundal

ImageThe recent murder of Lee Rigby has provoked a backlash of discrimination in Britain. But no matter how many people we blame, or how many riots we start, we’re all suffering from a cultural crisis.

Who are we? We share the same islands, but we aren’t all British. We call ourselves Scottish, Irish, Welsh, English and often, but rarely, British. With the Olympics, we wave our union Jack proudly, but when it comes to football, we create our own divisions.

There is much shared culture in Britain, whether music, TV, clothing and food. Each year we cringe at Britain’s attempt to win Eurovision with shoddy outfits and songs. But there’s one thing that keeps dividing us, it’s called religion.

Religious intolerance and ignorance are the causes of many conflicts across the UK. Muslims are branded as ‘terrorists,’ while Sikhs, who wear turbans, are mistaken with terrorism. Christianity is on the decline while Islam is on the up.

Regardless of the religious divide, there’s a real fear in Britain today – the fear that we’re losing British culture. No one can quite sum up what it means to be British or what British culture is today. Can you? No.

In 2012, Peter Hitchen’s stated that: ‘Bit by bit, the people of this country are ceasing to have key things in common. They don’t share a religion, or a culture, or a history. Many don’t even share a language.” And the worrying thing is, he’s right.

Labour’s reliance on multiculturalism has failed Britain. Multiculturalism was never meant to be a replacement of the British culture – including the language, the religion, the literature, and the institutions. But somewhere down the line, things have changed.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m Yorkshire born and bred, and I’m immensely proud of my Northern heritage. And I’m all for change. But as a Brit-Asian person, I no longer understand what it means to be British. Do you?

When I was growing up in the 90’s, the term ‘British’ was something to be proud off. We learnt together, played together and prayed together. Most importantly, we never complained.

Because of this, we sang hymns together, we participated in plays together, and we shared hot cross buns together. This was my childhood, and even though we didn’t agree on everything, we still embraced it.

There’s little to suggest this is the case today. Britain has become too tolerant and understanding to all faiths. We’re now seeing British schools, increasingly dropping the Jewish Holocaust from history lessons, as it offends some pupils.

In West Yorkshire, the Junior Infant and Nursery School in Batley, has banned stories featuring pigs, including “The Three Little Pigs.” Whereas in Nottingham, the Greenwood Primary School, cancelled a Christmas nativity play, as it interfered with other religious festivals.

In Norwich, the Knowland Grove Community School had axed the traditional Christmas play, to look at other cultural festivals of the world. Surely, Britain’s attitude to all faiths is spiraling out of control.

After the Olympic games, Tony Blair said: ‘Britain remains ‘proud of our Christian culture’ and those who came from overseas were are able to share a “common space” of British values, including a belief in democracy, rule of law and support for constitutional monarchy.

In spite of this, the death of Drummer Lee Rigby indicates we don’t all share the same ‘belief in democracy’ in Britain. As some people have very different views about how England should be governed.

Before you say it, yes, I am of British-Indian descent and I have my views. But I learnt to respect British culture, traditions and customs. So why are many of the new migrants not following this? Clearly, the Government has gone soft.

The problem with this is that British identity is becoming a fragile thing. Everyone wants the Government to adapt their policies, their religious or cultural beliefs. But in the process, we are slowly eroding British culture – that was once here.

The sole reasonable explanation for this dislocation between expectation and reality is an inflated sense of entitlement that England should be better. In this respect, things do seem to be changing.

However, the bigger picture is how do you make it work, without offending everyone. And how do we make Britain safer for the next generation – without them too, being culturally confused.

In all honesty, the Government is to blame for this cultural crisis. They need to stop being so tolerant to all religions. No matter how many cultures we embrace, not everyone will be happy. Period.

The Government needs to create boundaries and a set of guidelines, so we know what it means to be British. We all call ourselves British, however, no one can sum up what it means to be British or what British culture is today.

Meanwhile, EDL and BNP Parties will continue to add racial and religious hatred across Britain. But Rigby’s murder is not based on religion, but merely a cultural identity crisis – that we all created.

And Britain as we knew it will disappear. What do you think?

How to deliver a compelling speech: my rules, my way

By Gurdeep Hundal 

I am not a fan of educational speeches, and can you blame me?

We’ve all been there: You’re at an event listening to a boring highflyer and you keep checking your mobile, starring into space or just looking at your watch – anything to keep your mind busy.

You may have been excited about the speaker having heard about their achievements. But you leave feeling less inspired than you originally did – when you first entered the room.

I’ve seen dreadful presentations over the years.

I’ve also met boring speakers who have put me to sleep and I cannot understand why they were selected. When all they do is de-motivate you, rather than inspire you.

I’m not a fan of educational speeches. And can you blame me?

Let’s go back ten years ago, when I was fourteen years old. I was a shy and timid girl, who made bad decisions about where she was heading. Who could blame me? I wasn’t inspired or motivated by anyone.

Even if I got 98 per cent on a test, the teacher would be more interested in the disruptive kid than me. So rebelling became my favourite hobby.

I remember one morning we had a guest speaker in the main hall waiting for us. What was his name again? I can’t remember and do you know why? Because his speech has made no difference to my life.

Now at the age of twenty-four, I was asked to make a speech to several college kids. As you can imagine, I made sure I was not one of those boring speakers – but someone who was charismatic and inspirational.

My relationship with college kids was pretty simple. Speak like them and behave like one of them. And within seconds, they will be listening to you like Jessie J’s, “don’t lose who you are” song.

But there’s always that one disruptive student sat in the corner scribbling away at their desk. And the only way to grab their attention is by sitting them in a circle.

My approach was simple: inspire and not bore them.

Once my introduction was done, I made sure they knew I cared. I told them today is not about me, but them. As you can imagine their faces gleamed like they are watching their favourite series of Top Gear or Chloe and Kim Kardashian.

Can you imagine how they must had felt: “oh this isn’t about her…but me…ohh me…yes me…ooo me…hmmm, I could take on the world.”

I gazed around the classroom and asking them what they wanted to do. Like I thought not one of them had an idea as to where they are heading and how they would get there. The problem is no one had inspired them.

This may sound ever so simple, but when you are a lost soul, we often forget how easy it is to make a plan and stick by it. If you are feeling lost, try a few things and see what excites you and makes you content in the morning.

Several people have told me they had never been inspired and didn’t have any faith in themselves. This is why they never followed their dreams and succeeded. Think about that.

I remember a young girl I saved from a drunken man at a bus stop in Leeds. She looked perplexed, and I asked why. She was worried about her exams and had contemplated in killing herself, if she didn’t get her grades. I explained that life is not based on grades and spoke to her about my experiences in life.

Before I knew it, I had inspired her to follow her dreams.

Of course I have a knack for this; ask the Apple store guy on Regent Street who fixed my laptop, the Sainsbury’s boy who helped me with my shopping and the lady who threads my eyebrows, and many more.

Just like those random acquaintances of mine, I questioned these college students about what they’re interested in, and how they could apply this to their dream job.

An hour later, I was discussing their aspirations. Not one person had checked their mobiles, stared into space or played with their watches. Boy did I feel in control!

Clearly, I had re-scratched those rusty ideas in the back of their minds and inspired them to be successful. The responses I received were astonishing:

“I left the conversation with Gurds, persuaded to go to university instead of just relying on getting an apprenticeship straight after leaving college. She also gave us resources on where to look for experience I felt that this was useful as in the industry it’s about who you know instead of what you know” – Toni-Jade Read

“The talk with Gurdeep was really interesting because it was in great depth, of how we can all individually get to our future” Chan Wolex

“I did not want to go to University, but from the talk it has made me consider the opportunity to go to university a lot more” – unnamed

There’s one thing I have learnt. A motivational speaker needs to be quirky and inspiring. And they need to engage you with a polished, organized and yet raunchy dialogue.

Society is not interested in speakers who consistently praise themselves and their experiences. They want to be motivated and inspired.

What is your technique in inspiring others? I have mine, do you?

What is your relationship with yourself?

By Gurdeep Hundal 

Are you in love with the idea of love? Do you constantly crave for a relationship but nothing ever seems to work?

Do you want or need a relationship?

This is what I ask myself all the time.

Let me discuss another kind of relationship right now: what is your relationship with yourself?

This should be one of your best and well-understood relationships. What is your relationship with yourself?

Let me share with you what my relationship with myself used to be. Growing up in my household weakness wasn’t acceptable. You went to school, did your homework and if you got 98 per cent on a test, you would still be asked where the other 2% went. This was my father’s rule.

If you behaved inappropriately you would be called the devils child. And the whole time, he would sit there and make sly remarks about what a bad daughter you were.

My dad could not show love in anyway. He was very strict in his ways. But when my dad and I were not talking, he would express his feelings like a Jackie Collins novel, by ripping out his heart and laying it on a plate.

My mother was the opposite. She was the eighties strong headed women, with the strength to withstand anything. If you didn’t finish your plate of fruit, you weren’t allowed a biscuit, and if you questioned her why, you still wouldn’t receive that oatilicious biscuit. This was my mother’s rule.

If you were sick from school, you weren’t allowed to watch television all day. And if you did not finish your homework, your Nintendo 64 was banned, and there was nothing that could change her mind.

My mum was a rule follower. She was very stern in her ways. But when my mum and I talked, she would bend over backwards making sure I felt better, no matter what the situation.

Most of my adult life I had a bad relationship with myself. I thought about who I was, and were I was heading too much. Yet, I would please others more than myself. Blame my Punjabi upbringing; as part of our culture we are inclined to help others. I would feel guilty if I did not help people with their problems, and I felt guilty for putting myself first.

My relationship with myself over the last two months has been phenomenal. These days, all I think about is myself. I don’t let people control my life, and I will not let the weakness of others suck me in.

There will always be people with problems and people who will be depressed, but having your own personal relationship with yourself is very important.

As I stated to a friend a while back, the definition of being you can only be defined you. No one has the right to judge or belittle you. When you have figured this out, anything is possible.

Think about that. That definition of being you is unique for everyone who reads this.

You need to have a healthy relationship with yourself. If you don’t then the next time you have a relationship with someone else, your vulnerabilities will make an appearance. The two reasons why most couples break up are insecurities and a lack of self worth.

Many friends come to me and inquire what is wrong with them. The problem is they have forgotten who they are and where they are heading. It’s not the relationship that’s really the issue; you can make all the excuses you like. It’s the relationship that you’re NOT having with yourself.

It’s human nature to hold onto every second of a relationship because you fear that you’ll never find true love again. And if you’re gasping on every memory, the other person is not going to reward you with security; they will ditch you like a piece of rotten cheese.

Only you can create greater self-worthiness in your life. Whether you’re a secretary, plumber, doctor, lawyer or writer, you cannot be glued to someone who doesn’t respect your characteristics.

Of course don’t go out and ignore every person of the opposite sex. But if you keep blaming yourself, you WILL end living like a spinster with twelve cats. Just go out and re-discover yourself, and most importantly be you!

A strong relationship will only last, as long as you respect yourself and believe in who you are.

If you are self-conscious in the way you look, learn to appreciate your inner and outer beauty. The way you feel, and the way you act defines you and will definitely attract the opposite sex – making you feel damn sexy!

And remember, relationships are about give and take. If you walk around with a face like Peter Andre’s, Charlie pug dog, that relationship will soon become your last.

How do I know this? Well I have psychologically analyzed myself on several occasions where my relationships have never lasted. And the reason why? I didn’t appreciate myself.

It has taken me a long time to fully understand what a perfect relationship consists of.

Be strong! Be wise! Be healthy! And be content with yourself. If somebody questions your beliefs, stand up for yourself. If they mentally abuse your thoughts, walk away.

We all need boundaries and standards so make your own. Just like my parents, I know what is acceptable and what is not. And never tolerate somebody else’s negativity. This does not make me a bitch, but aBright spark ITotal Control of Herself.

Relationships are about experiencing things. Eventually, we’ll all find our Romeo and Juliet’s, Heer and Ranjha’s. And those who live in sadness will die a remorseful life. And I wonder why? Because they NEVER had a relationship with themselves.

Of course, some people get lucky very quickly and for others, it can take a while. But having a relationship with yourself, and then the other person, will make you both very happy.

Unfortunately, if you are stuck in an unhealthy relationship, that happiness will never come!

So improve your relationship with yourself, and then you’ll realize how amazing you really are!

What is your relationship with yourself? I have my answer, do you?

 
 

THE RETURN OF VICTORIAN DISEASES

November 7, 2009

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Victorian Diseases are back

By Gurdeep Hundal

Illnesses such as tuberculosis, typhoid and rickets may beckon visions of soiled street rogues and macabre plagues, but doctors are warning that Victorian diseases may be returning to London.

Rare infectious diseases including whooping cough, scarlet fever and typhoid have soared by 166 per cent in the past two years, with the number of cases of mumps, rising from 125 in 2007 to 393 last year.

Worried? I think we should be, as these infectious rates in the capital are soaring by the minute, even though they are easily prevented with vaccines and clean hygiene.

So, I have decided to explain why we are breaking into our ancestors’ habits, and how we can be ridden of these futile illnesses – despite our medical breakthroughs.

The primary causes have not changed much since Charles Dickens era, but new factors have emerged, such as immigration, rising obesity rates, and the decision of some parent refusing the Measles, Mumps and Rubella (MMR) vaccine.

Tuberculosis (TB) is the highest among immigrants from Africa where the disease is common, through low standards of living – which causes fever, weight loss, chronic coughing, fatigue and sweating.

Rickets is common within British children who suffer from a lack of vitamin D, which causes aches and pains in the bones and joints and leaves sufferers with bow legs.

While, gout is most commonly associated with obesity and is caused by uric acid on the joints and tissue, causing them to swell or become painful – this is noticeable in the big toe and lower limbs.

Measles and Mumps are the most contagious and lethal children’s diseases – which are rising rapidly by some parents choosing not to give their children the MMR jab.

And finally, Syphilis is transmitted sexually or from mother to child and the condition can lead to flu-like symptoms, followed eventually by insanity, heart problems and possibly death.

As a nation of dirty buggers, we are need of sprucing our act, by remaining clean and safe!